You didn't throw your money away when you signed up for your online dating service, but you probably made some serious errors when you built your profile – serious enough that you're just getting ignored.
Everybody needs a little help, following are some of the most egregious errors guys usually make and some solid hints on how to fix them:
Mistake #1: Writing an Online Dating Profile for Other Guys When You Should Be Writing for Women.
How does you profile communicate? This is the first step, Bucko. You've got to talk in a way a woman appreciates or it's all downhill from here. Men are usually no-nonsense creatures when it comes to things, facts, about themselves. They tend to be terse, such as: “I'm tall.” “I rise early.”
Statements like those won't win any awards and they certainly won't get you any women. Think about it, a woman doesn't want a series of little factoids. That's yawn city. Women want to know what kind of guy you are. They can figure the other stuff out later. So, what do you do? Well, you've got a personality – use it.
The Fix: When you're writing your online dating profile, be explicit with little snippets from your life that give her some insight as to how you operate. You've got a sensitive side: “I love camping. Once I had a campsite next to a roaring waterfall. There I took refreshing swims and caught plump fish.” Now, next to that inspired statement, how does, “I think camping is fun.” sound? Yup. Skimpy.
Mistake #2: “Every Picture Tells a Story.” Don't Make Yours a Fright Tale.
Please, before you post your picture, give it some thought. Many guys use an old office organization chart picture. Eyes half-closed and tie askew. Please don't. Even if your eyes are wide and your tie's neat.
Body parts are for boring boys. Are you advertising beef or advertising a man of taste and distinction? Think twice about the muscle man shots.
The Fix: Don't settle for any old snapshot – get a nice shot of yourself. You could opt for a professionally done portrait, but that's not necessary. Use that shot of you fishing on your favorite stream. Or some other activity you've described in your profile.
Mistake #3: Unfortunate Profile Name.
Remember, a name means a lot. What does “Desperate4Luv” or “ShyGuy85” mean? Pathetic, that's what. And skip the boring, “Jim95” or “Handsome77”.
The Fix: Conjure up something memorable and fascinating, as you are, something like “GuitarsAndGears” if you're into stock car racing and steel guitars. Remember the warning about body shot photos? Don't make your name offensive. Double meanings could work, though. Let her wonder about “AnimalLover”, especially if you've mentioned in your profile that you're a veterinarian.
Following these words of advice will help you immensely when you sit down and start crafting your online profile. And the women will take note.
Stand back, you may find the women messaging you, rather than vice versa, once you post.
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