Tuesday, June 29, 2010

Don't Let Fear Keep You From Meeting Exciting Women!

Let's start at the beginning - you can't have a successful date if you can't ask her out! That's why it's absolutely crucial that you overcome your approach anxiety.

Some people think that approach anxiety can't actually be overcome. There are those who think that approach anxiety is heriditary - it came down to us from our ancestors. Approach anxiety can be overcome, insist others.

These are a couple of approaches that men have found useful in overcoming approach anxiety:

Approach Anxiety can be Overcome in 3 Seconds!

This concept can be implemented easily. The underlying assumption is this: the more you ponder whether or not to approach a woman, or how to, the more uncertain you become about it and the more unlikely it is you'll ever talk to her. To overcome this, act quickly - don't give the anxiety any time to develop! Within 3 seconds of seeing a woman you want to meet, approach her. To achieve success with the 3-second rule, you have to commit to using it all the time. Don't waste time or opportunities thinking up exceptions or excuses, though, or you won't have any time left for meeting wonderful women! Of course, reality rules: if circumstances absolutely forbid meeting her, such as when you're late for work or she's in the process of getting married, then you can let it go, but if you're in a social situation like a club, go for it!

Approach Anxiety can be Overcome with the Power of Money

This approach requires a wingman, but can be really successful in motivating you to get out there and meet exciting women. Sometimes, just having a buddy there watching is sufficient motivation - I mean, who wants to shame himself in front of his friends by being afraid to get out there and meet the women you really want to meet?

But if you need greater motivation, try this: give your wingman $100 in cash You get the money back - in chunks of $10 or $20, every time you approach a woman and actually talk with her. You have to talk beforehand to determine how much he gives you back each time, and if you get more for a longer talk. If you don't go out and meet women, then, you're going to go home broke!

Let's be frank, though. These are just two ways of dealing with the problem. Using these approaches doesn't end approach anxiety, it just helps overcome it for the night. To permanently remove approach anxiety from your makeup, you're going to have to put some time and effort into determining its root cause and dealing with that.

Despite the claims of those who claim that approach anxiety is hereditary, I think that it's a learned response.

I think that when all the extraneous stuff is swept aside, the one consistent factor influencing approach anxiety is shame.

Simply put, when you're experiencing approach anxiety, what you're really feeling at some level is shame. Perhaps you have unresolved issues about yourself, your appearance, your job, or something else, that embarrasses you and manifests itself as approach anxiety. Perhaps you think, subconsciously, that you don't really deserve to have an exciting woman like her in your life, and you feel ashamed of yourself for thinking of approaching her. It's hard to tell. No two people are alike, and it's not good to paint people with a broad brush.

1 comment:

  1. The Indirect approach means that you approach in a way that doesn’t convey interest. The most known indirect approaches are Opinion approach, ie. asking a girl for her opinion on something.How to Make Love to a Woman

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