Saturday, December 5, 2009

How to Tell if a Girl Likes You

Several men have asked me wanting to know how they can tell if a woman likes them. I used to drive myself insane thinking about this, myself.

How to Know if a Woman is Interested in You:

These are some give aways signs that can tell you if she is into you. Here are some obvious give away signs she is interested in you.

Does she take the time to spend some time with you? A lot of people don't make that extra effort to hang out with other people they don't like. Yeah, so she might see you as just a pal, but maybe more...

Does the girl ever spend time flirting with you? If so, then she probably sees you as attractive on some level. Most women don't like to come off as a slut because they're conservative when it comes to starting things with men. If you are also attracted to her, flirt back. It can be surprising how hitting on her can lead to something more.

Does she ask you any questions that sound similar something you would ask on a first date? For example, "who is your biggest role model?" Be flattered that she likes you enough to memorize some corny first date questions. This is a big clue whether or not she likes you.

Notice her body language. If she likes you, she most likely will stand closer to you than a normal person and find reason to touch you. Follow the same advice that I gave you in the second point above about flirting.

Do her female friends ask you several questions about her? Most times a girl will tell her friends how she feels about men she is interested in. Women will tell their friends how they feel about you. Notice if her friends ask you a bunch of pointless questions.

Avoid spending too much time worrying about any of this. Assume that the woman likes you . Just think of all the mental energy and time you can save if you don't waste time worrying about this.

I mean, why wouldn't she want to be with you? You're a guy any woman would be lucky to have.

If you don't think you're a catch, you need a boost of confidence and self esteem. Once you get more confidence, women will see that and be instantly attracted to you.

Just assume she is interested in you and follow my advice. Girls love to follow the lead of a confident guy anyway, and if you start to become that man, things may start to go your way.

If you enjoyed this article, also check out How to Know if a Girl Likes You, Does She Love Me?, and Double Your Dating Review.

How to Pickup Women

You shouldn't be shocked to find that the most effective way to learn more about a girl is to ask her questions. Yes, there are lists of idiotic "date questions" out there like, "If you were trapped on a deserted island, what three movies would want to watch for the rest of your life?" Don't use these. They come off desperate and awkward. Plus, they just kill all attraction between you and the woman.

You shouldn't devote your efforts to these stupid questions. What you want to do is just talk to the woman naturally. Men often memorize stupid questions as a crutch to deal with feelings of nervousness or anxiety that they get. Using a bunch of canned questions will only hinder any real connection between you and the girl.Stop thinking so much and just be aware of what is going on in the moment with you and her. When you start to take a real interest in her experience in the present moment, you will never be left guessing what to talk about again.

Too many men also just ask questions that can be answered with a "yes" or a "no". Stop doing this, if you find that you do it. This will make you seem weird like you're a journalist interviewing her.

Are you from around here? - Yep.

Do you work in the city? - Yes.

Do you have a dog? - No.

Do all these dumb questions bother you? - Yes.

Try using open-ended questions instead that will make her contribute something to the conversation.

What's your favorite area of town? - I like the XYZ District. In fact I live there.

Really? What do you like so much about it? - I like all the history and character there. yadda ...yadda... yadda.

This isn't anything tough.

Ask the girl things about her life. Get to know her better and wrap your mind around how she sees the world. Start to drill down deeper into her emotions by asking the woman questions like "What did that make you feel?" and "What was it like when XXX happened?" Watch how she acts when she describe things and drill down on those too. Ask her things like "You seemed a little worried when you told me about your job.Tell me more about that." This often opens things that the woman didn't even know about herself.

Once you do this a few times, you will start to feel a very extremely strong connection that will make it seem like the two of you are in a bubble, alone from the rest of the world. You can be in the loudest club out there, but it will seem like you have her all to yourself.

Doesn't that sound so much better than "If you were a song, what kind would you be?"

So, just ditch the lame date questions and just have a real legitimate conversation. Just bring yourself completely to the interaction and allow whatever happens to happen. Ask questions to the woman and start to really get an understanding about her life. So feel free to ask anything that you want, so long as you are truthfully interested in the answer.

If you liked this article, please also check out how to pickup women, ask questions to a girl, and how to talk to girls.

Where to Meet Girls

Where are all the women? Single men want to know. Sure, you can probably meet a few girls if you go out to bars or clubs. But the music is often so loud that you can barely have a conversation with anyone. That is why I like to meet girls elsewhere.

Here are a few places I like to meet women that aren't bars or clubs.

First, you need to spend more time out in public. You probably won't find any girls to date inside your house. Girls are out in the real world, eager to meet you.

You can find them all over. They need to do the same daily chores that you and I do. They go grocery shopping. They need to fill up their cars with fuel. They catch up with friends at the cafe down the street. They hit the gym. They stop by the deli near work for lunch. They grab the new bestseller at the bookstore.

The best way to meet girls is to simply get out of the house and go to places where you can run into a lot of people. Begin with something easy like taking your laptop to the coffee shop next time you have a project that you need to do. Or go out and get lunch once or twice a week at work instead of bringing your own. Go to a few festivals and events that are held in your area. Go on a little walk through your neighborhood.

Begin looking for excuses to leave your house and do things around your community.

Consider joining some clubs. Sure, there are singles organizations out there, but you can sign up with other clubs too. Try to find a few clubs for interests you a passionate about. Enroll in a painting class if you are interested in art. If you like the idea of living on your own in the wild, take some classes on wilderness survival. If you like writing, you might want to join a writers circle. Don't just join with groups to meet women, do it because you are authentically interested with the subject. The women and friends you meet should just be an extra incentive.

You already have a great conversation topic if you meet a woman at one of these meetings. Just start with "Hey, I'm new at this group. How to you like things here?".

You can also expand your social circle and make new platonic friends too. These new friends will likely know a few girls that you can meet through them too. What you are doing here is adding to your circle of friends. When you have tons of friends, getting a date will be easy. You will always know someone who knows a single woman that you can hook up with.

If you enjoyed this article you might also be interested in Where to Meet Girls, Internet Dating Guide, and Meet Girls on the Internet

First Date Tips

What? She said yes when you asked her out? Awesome! Now, let's talk about some advice for first dates.

First dates are important because they give the two of you the opportunity to learn more about each other. I do not advise distracting dates like music shows or the theater. These make it challenging to really have a discussion with the girl. I like boring dates. Coffee dates are the best because they are inexpensive and don't seem very serious. If you take the girl out for coffee and the woman just acts incredibly rudely or whatever, it is not a big deal to just get up and leave.

Your goal for the first date is only to get to know her. If you pay attention to nothing else I say, listen to this. I know you like her, but you really don't know very much about the woman yet. Just have fun and learn who she is for now. Find out what her personality is like. Don't try to commit to memory a lot of corny "date questions" to throw at the woman. They will seem rehearsed and only make you look desperate. Just ask the woman things about her life. Keep in mind that your goal is not to entertain the woman, it is to get to know her, so only ask her questions if you really care about her response.

I still feel pretty excited and eager before I go out on a first date. Learning about a new person and discovering what she is like is about as exciting as opening a present on Christmas morning for me. You shouldn't be too worried since first dates tend to be pretty easy.

Here is another thing to remember for first dates. Don't get your hopes up too high. Your only aim is to find out if this girl is worth spending more time with. Keep your expectations down to earth. She is likely not going to go home with you that night. Most girls decide ahead of time that they will only go so far on a first date. So only go in with the goal of discovering more about her.

At the end of the date hug her and give her a kiss on her cheek. This is one of my favorite ways of ending dates. This will make you look pretty smooth and charming. Plus it will telegraph a powerful message that you are a top-notch guy. A gentleman that is looking for a quality relationship.

Most importantly, don't forget to enjoy yourself. Get her to laugh. She is likely anxious about the date as well. A good laugh will put you both at ease. Make up nonsensical stories about yourself. This will show her that you are both confident and that you don't take life too seriously at the same time. Just say something so off the wall that she knows you're just playing around like "My mom drove me here. She is waiting for me to finish up here in the drug store parking lot across the street. I can't leave her waiting all day, so I really need to be going."

So keep these things in mind on your next date. Remember that first dates are only to see if the girl is worth taking out on more serious dates. So don't get too stressed out.

If you enjoyed this article, also check out Tips for a First Date, What to Talk About on a Date, and Stop Being Shy.

How to Become an Alpha Male

Most men that write to me want to learn how to become an alpha male. You know what I'm saying here. The guy that commands respect everywhere he goes. The guy that is always the focus of the whole room. The one that catches the eye of every woman he runs across.

Some guys just act like jerks to other people to show that they have "social proof." They always brag about every little achievment that they experience, and take every chance to show off.

These men are being dumb and you don't want to copy them.

These guys are not alpha males. They show this by how much effort the put into showing how cool they are|.

The real alpha men are rock-solid and have nothing to prove. They do not waste time on how others see them because they know what they stand for. They live life by their own standars and definitely don't care if everyone thinks of them as "alpha. "

To become an alpha male, stop trying to impress other people and just follow your own path. Quit doing all that petty stuff to try and prove yourself to others. Real alpha men do not need to show off because they already know inside that they are cool guys .

Okay, now the stuff you can use.

Start taking initiative in your daily life. Instead of waiting for other people to decide things, try being the first to make a decision for them. It is not even important if you care that much about the outcome. Just choose something. Most pople cannot stand making decisions and are eager to let someone else do it. Additionally, you wil never have to endure a "I can't decide. What would you like to do?" discussions again. Taking command of a situation is easy, and most people will just simply fall in line behind you.

You should additionally start planning the broad vision of your life. Ask yourself what you're doing with your life and where you're headed. Cultivate some serious values. Stand up for your values is somebody tries to put you down them. But do not be overly willing to come to blows or start arguing with others. Assume that you can solve things through a civilized conversation, but don't be afriad to defend yourself if someone tries to take it there. After getting this, you will natrually take up alpha male behaviors. Once you know what your life is about there is no longer any reason to be uptight and tense.

Stop pouring so much effort into becoming an "alpha male. Simply cultivate your inner values and you'll automatically become less nurotic and more calm. The True alpha guys do not care about how everyone else sees them, so neither should you.

If you liked this article, please check out How to Become an Alpha Man, How to Impress Girls, and What Women Think Is Attractive.

What to Say to a Girl

After approaching a woman, what you say can help ensure that things keep going well.

Try this advice to make your conversations with girls more enjoyable. Note: Before trying any of this take a second to remember that you are actually talking to a human being.

Don't make things too easy for her. Be a little mysterious. Make her put a bit of effort in. Sometimes you'll be tested by girls. When she does then, throw her a curve ball and test her. When women test men, most guys will either try to act macho or become a doormat scared of offending her. Both of these are a turn off. You are just ruining your chances with the girl.

In these situations, you can do two things. When she asks you how many women you've been with or what kind of car you own, you can either:

One, you can ask her "What makes you want to know?" Don't say this like an arrogant jerk or you'll just inspire her to throw her drink at you. This is a chance for you to get to the bottom of the real question.

In case you missed that, you answer questions with questions. Don't over do it though or you may come off as shifty.

Second, you can just tell her something funny that she will know is just for laughs. Try to make it something as pathetic as possible. The lamer it is, the better. It will show that you are confident enough in yourself that you can laugh at yourself. Very few guys are bold enough to even joke about something like their dating lives. When you pull this off and it's clear that you are merely kidding around with her, she will start to think of you you as confident and smooth. If you are ever wondering what to say to a woman, try something funny.

Make sure you also hit on the woman too. If you don't let her know that you're in to her, then she might start to think of you as a friend. I take it you don't want this. It is actually pretty easy to let a girl know you like her. Don't attempt to think up some choreographed lecture about why the two of you are meant for each other. That will not win the woman over. Just continue your conversation until she mentions something that authentically impreeses you. Then comment with something like "That's really sexy how you read a new book each week," or "I think it's really sexy how you want to help animals. "

Don't even worry about sounding crazy. It can be a little out there. In fact it's more often than not better if it is original.

So, I hope you got a few good tips on what to say to a girl. This isn't all that complex. Don't take it too seriously.

If you liked this article, please also take a look at What to Say to Girls, How to Start Conversations with Women, and Getting Women's Phone Numbers

How to Kiss a Girl

Have you ever been out on a date and felt that strange feeling when you knew you had to take things to the next level, but you didn't know how to kiss her in the right way or were nervous of blowing it?

It is something that a lot of guys will deal with at some point. Actually, I used to suffer from the same problem. I would be able to get girls to go out with me, but I could never step up to the plate when it came time to take things physical.

Firstly, if you can get a girl to go out with you and you have an inkling that she might even be attracted to you, then you are faring a lot better than most guys out there. You just need to know how to kiss a woman.

The real problem is in your mind. Your mind is most likely racing "What if she just wants to be friends? How would I deal with that?".

All of this is simply a waste of your energy.

There are no fool-proof ways to know if a girl likes you or not.

What you should do instead is find out quickly if she is deserving of your time or not.

You have to just kiss her when the timing is right like when you two are alone. With a bit of practice, you can just feel when it is time to kiss her. The situation will become thick and you will intuitively know it is time to kiss.

When you kiss her, she will will give you one of two reactions.

First, the two of you will make out and have all sorts of exciting fun.

Or second, she turns you down. If this happens, be glad! You learned quickly that she isn't worth your time and you can now turn your attention to other women.

Just say something calm like, "Well, you can't blame me for giving it a try. " or "Just take it as a compliment." Then finish up the date fast. Treat her like she is just a friend and don't let the situation become weird.

Then your relationship is left to her. If she decides that she made the wrong choice, then leave it to her to call you. But leave the decision to her. You, on the other hand, will be out spending time with other women that are attracted to you.

Here is a story from my life that shows you how to kiss a girl.

Last year, I met up with a girl that I was really eager to go out with. Occasionally, you meet a woman that just pushes all your buttons in just the right ways. She was one of those girls.

We got lunch at one of my favorite spots in town. After driving her home, she invited me up to show me her artwork. We had a conversation and lounged on her sofa.

Then everything became quiet.

The moment was just right to make my move. I didn't know what would happen, but I took a leap of faith anyway. I let it to get a little awkward for dramatic effect, then I said, "I just really want to kiss you now. " Then I just kissed her.

She seemed uncertain for a second but then she relaxed into the mood. Don't shy away if you get some intial resistance. If she doesn't feel like making out, she'll make it clear. But don't be surprised if you encounter a little "turbulance".

Also be a man and stay in control of the make out session. Most women will try to kiss in their own way at first. Be firm and direct with your kissing and she will relax and let you set the tone.

Afterward I leaned back and said "I've wanted to do that for a really long time. " That made her smile and we went on to have a lot of fun.

So that is how to kiss a woman. Yes, it can be hard to put it all on the line and risk rejection, but that's part of the game.

If you liked this article, please also check out How to Kiss a Woman, Flirting with Girls, and Turning On Women

Tips on How to Get a Girlfriend

A good deal of men are looking to learn a couple of tricks for getting a girlfriend. You don't have to push yourself all that hard to have some degree of success with women. Yeah, you'll have to learn how to meet girls and how to get a date with a woman, after you get a handle on the essentials of dating, settling into a relationship is going to be more work.

First, don't just settle for a woman because you want a girlfriend and she happened to be there. You don't want to make a woman your girlfriend for this reason. It's not good for you and it isn't good for her either. You need to live by your convictions if you want to be the kind of guy that has a fulfilling long-term relationship, and really enjoys the company of the girl he is with.

It may require some devoted self-improvement to become the kind of man that is attractive to the girl that you truly desire. The supermodels might not exactly be rushing to bash down your door if you're the kind of man that just plays World of Warcraft in his parents' basement all day.

These two things could help you. First, I want you to make a list of the top five things that you most want in a girlfriend. These can be whatever you want. A few examples could be "emotional openness," "artistic," "a sense of adventure," or even something as simple as "a hot body." Above all else, make sure that you're not listing certain things that you "should" want in a girl. Then, jot down a list of five things that you will not tolerate from a girl no matter what. These might be qualities like "too needy," "cheating," "militant feminists," or "too demanding." These two lists can be a compass that can guide you to your ideal girl and ensure that you don't end up stuck with someone who will make you miserable. Spend more time with women that show the qualities that you want in a girl. You never know, she could be the love of your life. On the same note, quit dating women that show the qualities that you don't want to have in a girlfriend. This alone is one of the best dating tips I can offer. It will save you so much time and drama.

Second, you likely have a inkling about what your dream woman is like. This may seem odd, but try to envision what it's like to be her. What kind of man would she be attracted to? What sorts of traits does he have? Do you measure up to this? Although, you shouldn't pretend to be someone you're not you might have some work cut out for you if there is a disconnect. In order to attract the kind of woman that you want, you might need to move past some personal limits and overcome some challenges that have held you back in your life.

When you find a girl that is deserving of you, take things to the next level. Getting a girlfriend isn't really all that great of an achievement. You want to find and keep a girlfriend that you can really enjoy and be happy with.