First Date Tips

What? She said yes when you asked her out? Awesome! Now, let's talk about some advice for first dates.

First dates are important because they give the two of you the opportunity to learn more about each other. I do not advise distracting dates like music shows or the theater. These make it challenging to really have a discussion with the girl. I like boring dates. Coffee dates are the best because they are inexpensive and don't seem very serious. If you take the girl out for coffee and the woman just acts incredibly rudely or whatever, it is not a big deal to just get up and leave.

Your goal for the first date is only to get to know her. If you pay attention to nothing else I say, listen to this. I know you like her, but you really don't know very much about the woman yet. Just have fun and learn who she is for now. Find out what her personality is like. Don't try to commit to memory a lot of corny "date questions" to throw at the woman. They will seem rehearsed and only make you look desperate. Just ask the woman things about her life. Keep in mind that your goal is not to entertain the woman, it is to get to know her, so only ask her questions if you really care about her response.

I still feel pretty excited and eager before I go out on a first date. Learning about a new person and discovering what she is like is about as exciting as opening a present on Christmas morning for me. You shouldn't be too worried since first dates tend to be pretty easy.

Here is another thing to remember for first dates. Don't get your hopes up too high. Your only aim is to find out if this girl is worth spending more time with. Keep your expectations down to earth. She is likely not going to go home with you that night. Most girls decide ahead of time that they will only go so far on a first date. So only go in with the goal of discovering more about her.

At the end of the date hug her and give her a kiss on her cheek. This is one of my favorite ways of ending dates. This will make you look pretty smooth and charming. Plus it will telegraph a powerful message that you are a top-notch guy. A gentleman that is looking for a quality relationship.

Most importantly, don't forget to enjoy yourself. Get her to laugh. She is likely anxious about the date as well. A good laugh will put you both at ease. Make up nonsensical stories about yourself. This will show her that you are both confident and that you don't take life too seriously at the same time. Just say something so off the wall that she knows you're just playing around like "My mom drove me here. She is waiting for me to finish up here in the drug store parking lot across the street. I can't leave her waiting all day, so I really need to be going."

So keep these things in mind on your next date. Remember that first dates are only to see if the girl is worth taking out on more serious dates. So don't get too stressed out.

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