How to Pickup Women

Beautiful Women - Where To Meet Them And How To Attract Them

2010-07-03T22:36:00.000-07:00

It's almost universal - guys want to know how to meet beautiful women. I've learned a lot about beautiful women, and I'll share with you my knowledge of where you can go to meet them, and how to treat them after that.

You Can Meet Beautiful Women Here . . .

It's no secret - wherever you look, there are beautiful women. Here's one of those little-known facts - these stunning creatures aren't any different, really, from you or me. They must eat, sleep and go to work. They usually like to spend their time having fun from time to time, and they've got lives to lead that require the same things from that as are required of the rest of us.

Now, it is a fact that extremely beautiful women tend to gravitate to big cities. The reason is simple - opportunities abound in big cities. For instance, modeling and acting careers are easier to pursue in big cities. Likewise, since also attract the wealthy and successful, there's more opportunity to meet such men in big cities. Finally, cities are more active and exciting than most rural areas.

You're truly hunting beautiful women now - where can you find them? How about the places they might go to enhance and show off their beauty, or the places they might go to maintain their beauty and physical tone? To maintain their beauty, women go to the gym. To enhance their beauty, they buy fashionable clothing and accessories in trendy stores. Go to those places if you want to find beautiful women.

Pretty girls are easy to meet at a gym. Be ready to work out, and then go position yourself by one of the bench press machines. As soon as a girl comes by, tell her your workout buddy couldn't make it, and ask if she'll spot you while you do a few reps. She's doing you a big favor, so be certain to thank her when you're done, and of course introduce yourself. It's even okay to get her phone nubmer, but only if it feels right.

You can meet a beautiful woman in a department store as well - just look around and when you see one you'd love to meet, tell her you're looking for a birthday gift for your sister or cousin. She'll probably respond positively if you tell her she seems to have the same sense of understated elegance as your sister, and ask her to give you ideas about a gift like a sweater or similar item. During the time you're shopping together, you can carry on a nice conversation with her, small talk that will help you to get to know her better.

What's the Best Way to Behave When Meeting Beautiful Women?

Most men, when they're around beautiful women, get tongue-tied and act confused. They start acting macho, stupid. It's called "beauty vision." Remember - this is what most other guys out there do, so it's imperative that you stand out by being different!

Most importantly, you must be oblivious to the fact that she's gorgeous.

She knows she's beautiful and has known it for quite a while now. When you focus on something other than her looks, you send the signal that you're not so easily conquered. She may appreciate that you're clearly not just interested in her because of her looks, even if she feels a little uncomfortable with the idea that you're not so easily won over.

All you need to do is treat her like any other person you might run into during the course of the day. Realistically speaking, she probably doesn't often encounter men who don't fall all over themselves when they encounter her, and so the time your spend together will be somewhat of a rarity to her. At the same time, your immunity - your apparent immunity - to her beauty will set you apart from most other men, and she'll consider you something of a mystery. She'll be off-balance, because she'll appreciate being treated like a grownup women, but she'll also be wondering whether or not you even find her attractive at all! Even though she likes and appreciates the way you treat her, she'll feel the need to make certain she still has her power over men, and so she'll feel challenged by you.

Now you have a couple more ideas about where to meet beautiful women and, probably more importantly, how to act around them. This, though, must be remembered: she's so used to men acting stupidly around her that if you act like that, she's not going to take you seriously and you'll never have a chance to show her what a great guy you really are!

How To Build Strong Connections With Women - PUA Routines For Success

2010-07-03T21:27:00.000-07:00

Let's get down to brass tacks and look at a few of the specific techniques used by pick up artists to achieve dating success. There's nothing supernatural or magical about these routines - they're basically just stories that build you up into someone a woman wants to get to know better.

Don't worry - I'm not going to waste time rehashing some old, tired routines like "the cube" and "the jealous girlfriend." I'm going to go over a few of the newer routines here.

The Present Routine - This is a very creative routine that will help you to learn a great deal more about your "chosen" target.

It couldn't be easier - just go up to a group of girls and let them know that a business crisis called your buddy out of town unexpectedly. Tell them he called you when he landed and asked you to get his girlfriend a birthday gift for him - he asked you to spend up to $200 and he'll pay you back when he gets back. The thing is, you don't know what to get her, and so you're hoping they'll help out.

What's beautiful about this strategy is that the girls, whatever they suggest, will be revealing information about themselves. The girl who suggests a day at a spa is a girl who herself loves to be pampered, for instance. The girl who tells you to buy expensive perfumes and accessories, designer name things like Prada and Guess, is a girl who herself also likes those designer-name things. Especially if you're persistent and patient, and get the girls to think about their suggestions, this will give you incredibly valuable information. Imagine if one of the girls first tells you to buy a designer handbag, but her second suggestion is a book of poetry by a particular author.

Dating for Dummies - I've encountered a lot of different routines, and this is one of the funniest I've heard of. It's a great icebreaker and it helps women to feel really relaxed around you.

Can you find a book on dating called "Dating for Dummies" or something similarly stupid? Find it and buy it.

Carry it with you into places you'd expect to meet women, like clubs, taverns, or whatever. Open it up to the chapter about pickup lines you should never use.

Now you can have fun - go up to a woman you'd really like to meet, hold the book open in front of you, and start reading the bad pickup lines out loud. Don't be bashful, go for the gusto! The worse the line, the better it is for your purpose - look for "Do you come here often?" and "Hey there, baby, what's your sign?"

This ought to get you a few laughs - assuming she's got any sense of humor at all - and she'll let down her guard. You can even put on an innocent air and ask her if it "worked."

Okay, so these are just a couple of tried-and-true PUA routines that ought to help you get your foot in the door. Once you've got a conversation going, though, you can't let it stay at the question and answer level. You've got to make a connection. To establish rapport, you have to open up wo her, share something personal about yourself. Try a meaningful story about an incident at work, or maybe something that happened at school. You'll find that when you open up to women personally, they'll likewise open up to you, and you'll actually feel the connection building.

There are some PUA routines that basically involve lying about who you are. That's not my style, and I hope it's not yours, and so those routines aren't included here. I'm sure you've got friends who are constantly telling stories about things they've done, places they've been, and the like. You've probably done many of the same things and been to loads of different places yourself - so think of incidents in your life and travels that illustrate the sort of great guy you are and take the time to make good stories of them!

Your own life and experiences are always the very best foundation on which to build your own PUA routines. Sometimes, a little help is called for. Put the routines here to work - try them out yourself a few times and get a feel for them and for approaching women. Working with these PUA routines will give you a better insight into making your own routines from your own life experiences.

How The Gurus Pick Up Women All The Time!

2010-07-02T14:20:00.000-07:00

In his book The Game, Neil Strauss popularizes the Pick Up Artist (PUA). Many men worldwide have had their eyes opened by this impressive book and revitalized their dating lives. Whether you're new to dating, or feel you're pretty experienced, the tips laid out here should help you in your dating life.

Before looking at techniques, let me point out that there are really two different types of pick up artists. The first kind of PUA works hard at it, memorizing specific scenarios or tales to tell their prospective companions. These stories and routines are each intended to impress women and attract them to the PUA, and to ensure his success, he carefully crafts and polishes them. Mystery is the prime example of this kind of pick up artist.

The "natural game" is how Strauss characterizes the approach used by the second type of PUA. Success with women is achieved by putting his own natural charisma and personality into play. This fellow will approach women confidently, and his conversation will be spontaneous, natural, hence the label. A good example from The Game would be the PUA called “Juggler.”

There are advantages and disadvantages to each approach. My preferred approach is "natural game," but I've seen success achieved with both techniques. There's a lot of work involved in memorizing all that material. I find it far preferable to have a woman attracted to me because of my own wit and personality - who I really am - than to know she's attracted to me because of some tale I spun for her.

Regardless of the strategy you employ, though, remember this: concentrate on your inner game, the real you. The term "inner game" is how we label your core beliefs and especially your level of self-confidence. You see, it doesn't matter how many tips and routines you've memorized, or how many stories you've fabricated - if you feel shy and unattractive, you're really not very likely to approach a woman you find attractive. Conversely, if you have a high degree of self-confidence, you'll be able to approach pretty much any woman without fear of rejection.

Another pick up artist tip: take it easy. These things take time. Concentrate on the basics - your self-confidence, your inner game - and as these things improve, you'll find yourself with more women than you ever dreamed would be possible in your life! When you find something in your path - an obstacle that keeps you from being successful - you must concentrate specifically on overcoming that obstacle. Shyness was my obstacle. To overcome my shyness, I devised a special challenge for myself. I had to talk with 100 strangers every week. Overcoming the obstacles you encounter is a job only you can do - nobody's going to do it for you.

Of all the possible pick up artist tips I could offer, though, one of the best is simple: consistency. Once you've found a technique you're comfortable with, don't change. You might be familiar with the type - the fellow who buys a book, skims it, and then tries one or two pieces of advice, before giving up and turning to another book. After trying many approaches briefly, they'll denounce them all as ineffective. The fact is, though, that dating success was available to these guys if they'd simply stuck with a single approach and gave it an honest trial.

Thus, if you really want to achieve dating success, my final pick up artist tip is to find one technique that you're comfortable with, learn it thoroughly, and stick to it!

Don't Let Fear Keep You From Meeting Exciting Women!

2010-06-29T20:33:00.000-07:00

Let's start at the beginning - you can't have a successful date if you can't ask her out! That's why it's absolutely crucial that you overcome your approach anxiety.

Some people think that approach anxiety can't actually be overcome. There are those who think that approach anxiety is heriditary - it came down to us from our ancestors. Approach anxiety can be overcome, insist others.

These are a couple of approaches that men have found useful in overcoming approach anxiety:

Approach Anxiety can be Overcome in 3 Seconds!

This concept can be implemented easily. The underlying assumption is this: the more you ponder whether or not to approach a woman, or how to, the more uncertain you become about it and the more unlikely it is you'll ever talk to her. To overcome this, act quickly - don't give the anxiety any time to develop! Within 3 seconds of seeing a woman you want to meet, approach her. To achieve success with the 3-second rule, you have to commit to using it all the time. Don't waste time or opportunities thinking up exceptions or excuses, though, or you won't have any time left for meeting wonderful women! Of course, reality rules: if circumstances absolutely forbid meeting her, such as when you're late for work or she's in the process of getting married, then you can let it go, but if you're in a social situation like a club, go for it!

Approach Anxiety can be Overcome with the Power of Money

This approach requires a wingman, but can be really successful in motivating you to get out there and meet exciting women. Sometimes, just having a buddy there watching is sufficient motivation - I mean, who wants to shame himself in front of his friends by being afraid to get out there and meet the women you really want to meet?

But if you need greater motivation, try this: give your wingman $100 in cash You get the money back - in chunks of $10 or $20, every time you approach a woman and actually talk with her. You have to talk beforehand to determine how much he gives you back each time, and if you get more for a longer talk. If you don't go out and meet women, then, you're going to go home broke!

Let's be frank, though. These are just two ways of dealing with the problem. Using these approaches doesn't end approach anxiety, it just helps overcome it for the night. To permanently remove approach anxiety from your makeup, you're going to have to put some time and effort into determining its root cause and dealing with that.

Despite the claims of those who claim that approach anxiety is hereditary, I think that it's a learned response.

I think that when all the extraneous stuff is swept aside, the one consistent factor influencing approach anxiety is shame.

Simply put, when you're experiencing approach anxiety, what you're really feeling at some level is shame. Perhaps you have unresolved issues about yourself, your appearance, your job, or something else, that embarrasses you and manifests itself as approach anxiety. Perhaps you think, subconsciously, that you don't really deserve to have an exciting woman like her in your life, and you feel ashamed of yourself for thinking of approaching her. It's hard to tell. No two people are alike, and it's not good to paint people with a broad brush.

Three Tips To Land The Girl Who's Out Of Your League

2010-06-29T17:25:00.000-07:00

It's a matter of pride – every guy would love to attract a girl who is so hot people will shake their heads in disbelief.

Believe it or not, it can happen. I'm proof. It's a great feeling to wake up in the morning and wonder why. But, I quit wondering and just enjoyed.

Step 1: Slide On In

Take action. Start talking. If you're going to land one of those out-of-your-league girls. The girls hot, so she probably knows it. She doesn't have to ask guys out, they ask her.

Yeah, you have to do a little work. Fact of life. An attractive girl won't make a move. It's up to you to get in there and make the move.

Step 2: Go Ahead and Ask

“How does he do it?” the other guys will ask. You've made the move and now you two are talking. Keep things moving, keep her talking. The more you can get her to talk, the easier things get.

Hopefully you've thought of something interesting to do with her. So, go ahead and ask. Tell her about it. Tell her you'd like to share it with her. Ask her out. You don't have to put on the dog. But do be creative. McDonalds isn't creative. Check out a museum. Go to an amusement park.

Don't be too busy or not busy enough when you go out. Movies – not good. You sit in the dark and don't talk. You need a chance to get to know each other, to flirt.

Step 3: Now You've Got Her

You want her to be your girl. She knows you like her, so show her how much. Otherwise, she'll move on down the line. You think she's hot, let her know. Otherwise, you'll end up being a confidant and not a boy friend.

Now's not the time to be timid. You need to be bold, confident, take the lead. Women love that show of masculinity. Now you need to take some risks. Kiss her. Or tell her exactly how you feel about her without mincing words. “Sexy.” That's the word. Tell her you think she's sexy.

Platonic? No way. Not if you tell her you think she's sexy. She'll know that you want more than brotherly love.

The girl may be out of your league, but you can probably get her by following these guidelines. Forget fear. Forget rejection. Take action. That's all it takes. You know, someone's got to date these hot girls. Why shouldn't it be you?

How to Let a Woman Know You Like Her

2010-06-29T16:49:00.000-07:00

Need to know how to let a girl know you like her? Never try to approach the situation rationally or try to explain it to her – A great deal of men will sit down and jot down a whole speech virtually and run through it in order to say it perfectly. Then they connect with her and have this serious talk where they tell the woman just how they feel for her. In many cases the man will be so nervous the whole time that his romantic statement will only seem awkward or weird.

There are two good reasons why this is the reverse of what you should be doing.

The first downside to doing things this way is that you are getting at it from the state of mind that you must persuade her into liking you. This type of behavior is just one other way of trying to win her over and show her what an excellent man you are. You're still putting her up on a pedestal and that's just not appealing to girls.. It's okay to just like a woman without having to justify it.

Secondly, you're so trapped in your mind going through your speech that you're not honestly there with the woman. You're lost in your own thoughts, which really is not attractive to girls at all. Do the opposite of this and actually be there fully with her.

You are probably thinking this is all hippy-dippy junk, but you'd be amazed at how very true this is. You can start practicing this by focusing on your body. Can you feel how your feet are resting on the floor or how the shirt you're wearing feels against your skin? Or what about that soothing feeling in your chest when you see the woman? I hope you can start to understand why this is so vital when you're talking to women?

I hope you are starting to understand this.

So, that is what you aren't supposed to do, but what can you do to let her know that you don't just want to be friends? Here is how to let a girl know you like her the right way.

An SOI is a term that is short for Statement of Intent. This term is employed by Pickup Artists (PUA's). The term was coined by Wayne Elise (otherwise known as "Juggler") and is really just a straightforward way to let a girl know that you think she is sexy. A rudimentary SOI should go like this:

Her: I have another two hour rehearsal tonight for my major dance performance on Friday.

You: I really think it's sexy how committed and passionate you are about your performance.

By telling her that she is "sexy" you are giving a quite strong but sophisticated message to her that you do not just want to simply be friends with her. It is a very fine item, but this lets the girl know that she can move forward and start hitting on you. Basically do this casualy and do not try to make it into some sort of major thing. The point here is to be sophisticated. Don't worry, she won't miss it.

There is one other way to let a girl know that you like her, which is to just be straightforward and frank about it.

For instance, maybe you could be spending time with her and one of those quiet moments descends on the both of you. You need to do what a man does at this point and simply take her and say something such as "I really want to kiss you right now." You will need to follow this up by kissing her. Not a peck on the cheek, but a genuine kiss. This takes a certain amount of courage, but girls really like it if you do this.

The essential difference between this and the awkward, worried strategy above, is that, to begin with, it is not some sort of rehearsed plan that you just sort of fumble through. And secondly, this is a rather manly move to make. You're really telling her you want to kiss her, not "sort of kind of" asking her if she would like to watch a movie. You are fully secure with your desires. This sort of action also shows her you have lots of follow through and you pursue your goals. Girls really think this is attractive.

So, that is how to let a girl know you like her. The essential component here is to make certain it is relaxed and never some type of problem. When you just act like it is the most normal and natural thing there is, she will treat it so and follow suit.

Want Girls To Like You? Try These Three Ways

2010-06-25T12:39:00.000-07:00

Women. How do you make girls like you? I've had many conversations about that. Any red-blooded guy would love to have a bevy of beautiful babes bombarding his body. Thinking about such a scene made me want to be the best I could around women. I now have a 2-year relationship with the perfect woman.

I'm certainly not the GQ good-looker, but there's plenty to do to overcome that.

Lift your chin. Women go for personality over looks ninety-nine percent of the time. Ari Onassis landed Jackie O. He's not really a handsome man. But he landed one of the world's most charming and beautiful women. Take heart.

So what if you inherited a less than average set of genes. You have power in other areas:

Build your self-confidence to turn women's heads.

Self-confidence is a powerful tool. If you exude self-confidence, you've practically got a woman on your arm. What is self-confidence? How do I know if I have it? How do I get it if I don't feel like I have it? Be in, or get in,the habit of doing things that you are afraid to do. And knowing you're right. That's about it.

You don't have to be a Rhett Butler by this evening. Start with small things and it'll keep getting easier as you gain more of it. You face challenges. Get over them. Subdue them. Deal with them and your self-confidence will grow.

Get some life skills to get the girls.

“Skills?” you may ask. Yes, skills. Gals want guys who can do neat things. (It's no small thing to hack into a forbidden server, or excel at bow-hunting, or tune up a car, but those skills aren't exactly endearing to a woman's frame of mind.) Start developing some skills that will surprise or attract women in a positive way.

Learn how to cook. Learn how to dance. Learn a romance language. Learn to play the guitar. Have an interesting hobby. I once set up a small aquarium in a girl's apartment and she immediately fell in love with me. Being able to do things such as these will make you stand out in a crowd. Women like singularly talented men better than all the regular Joe's.

Flirting is fun and girls love it.

It's so important we even have a word for it alone – Flirt. Flirt as often as you can with as many as you can.

Flirt, but flirt well. Flirting is absolutely an art, a high skill. If you do it right, nothing else will make girls like you like this.

Flirting does have a couple of demands. It shouldn't be too serious. The lady you're flirting with should feel flattered.

Please, don't be a Neanderthal. Hollering at a lady and telling her she has a nice butt is just plain wrong. It's not flirting, because it fails on two counts: 1) since she probably doesn't know you, she's not going to take it seriously, 2) there's is no way a woman could feel good about herself when hollered at in this fashion, it is demeaning to her; and guys who act like this are basically animals with no manners.

Follow your heart and follow these guidelines, and you'll be making a lot of female friends before you know it. All these guidelines do is allow your personality to shine. As long as you have self-confidence, know how to do a few neat things, know how to flirt; you're going to do just fine with the girls.

Three Dangerous Mistakes Men Should Avoid When Making An Online Dating Profile

2010-06-25T10:24:00.000-07:00

You didn't throw your money away when you signed up for your online dating service, but you probably made some serious errors when you built your profile – serious enough that you're just getting ignored.

Everybody needs a little help, following are some of the most egregious errors guys usually make and some solid hints on how to fix them:

Mistake #1: Writing an Online Dating Profile for Other Guys When You Should Be Writing for Women.

How does you profile communicate? This is the first step, Bucko. You've got to talk in a way a woman appreciates or it's all downhill from here. Men are usually no-nonsense creatures when it comes to things, facts, about themselves. They tend to be terse, such as: “I'm tall.” “I rise early.”

Statements like those won't win any awards and they certainly won't get you any women. Think about it, a woman doesn't want a series of little factoids. That's yawn city. Women want to know what kind of guy you are. They can figure the other stuff out later. So, what do you do? Well, you've got a personality – use it.

The Fix: When you're writing your online dating profile, be explicit with little snippets from your life that give her some insight as to how you operate. You've got a sensitive side: “I love camping. Once I had a campsite next to a roaring waterfall. There I took refreshing swims and caught plump fish.” Now, next to that inspired statement, how does, “I think camping is fun.” sound? Yup. Skimpy.

Mistake #2: “Every Picture Tells a Story.” Don't Make Yours a Fright Tale.

Please, before you post your picture, give it some thought. Many guys use an old office organization chart picture. Eyes half-closed and tie askew. Please don't. Even if your eyes are wide and your tie's neat.

Body parts are for boring boys. Are you advertising beef or advertising a man of taste and distinction? Think twice about the muscle man shots.

The Fix: Don't settle for any old snapshot – get a nice shot of yourself. You could opt for a professionally done portrait, but that's not necessary. Use that shot of you fishing on your favorite stream. Or some other activity you've described in your profile.

Mistake #3: Unfortunate Profile Name.

Remember, a name means a lot. What does “Desperate4Luv” or “ShyGuy85” mean? Pathetic, that's what. And skip the boring, “Jim95” or “Handsome77”.

The Fix: Conjure up something memorable and fascinating, as you are, something like “GuitarsAndGears” if you're into stock car racing and steel guitars. Remember the warning about body shot photos? Don't make your name offensive. Double meanings could work, though. Let her wonder about “AnimalLover”, especially if you've mentioned in your profile that you're a veterinarian.

Following these words of advice will help you immensely when you sit down and start crafting your online profile. And the women will take note.

Stand back, you may find the women messaging you, rather than vice versa, once you post.

Ways To Get Explosive Results With Online Dating As A Man

2010-06-23T12:59:00.000-07:00

Many guys have heard of online dating and expect it would be helpful to score a few extra dates. They registered, put up their photos, and write about themselves briefly. But without the online dating tips men need to know I’m giving out here, most guys will have very poor results with online dating.

Getting no results at all can hurt a guy’s ego. You sign up with these sites and you think you should at least get one or two women to notice you. But you see, the majority of men won’t even experience any degree of success at all online. Why would this happen?

Online Dating Tips Men Need to Know: It is a whole new game online

What you should understand first is that women would have more choices in online dating, while the reality for men is not that optimistic. Lot of guys go online to meet women, but they are doing it all wrong. They just send the exact same email to thousands of women. Or they send offensive messages. Or they bore women with their life story with the first email (before they’ve even established any rapport).

To be frank, women just aren’t going to e-mail you first. The reality is that women just don’t need to take much initiative with online dating.

So you see, the deck is stacked against you.

Online Dating Tips Men Need to Know: Actually you are lucky that most guys are totally clueless at this

While most guys are banging their heads against a wall in frustration, you can move in and totally have your pick of any girl you want. Thus, you get great possibility to go out with just about any woman you want on these websites.

Online Dating Tips Men Need to Know: Use words to leave her spellbound

In online dating, words will taking you farther than anything else. Most guys’ profiles are so lame with things like “I’m doctor” or “I’ve got a great sense of humor.” No woman is going to have any interest in this boring kind of writing. A detailed description would be better than boring list of facts. Something like this would be much better:

“Isn’t it great to just take a day off from work once in awhile and go hiking out in the forest? I mean, what could be better than getting lost in nature’s beauty escaping from all the noise and distraction of the city? As far as I’m concerned, nothing is better than wandering below a canopy of green leaves and watching the way the sunlight just shines through them and makes everything just seem to glow green."

Can you what I’m talking about?

Online Dating Tips Men Need to Know: Good first impressions count

At first, women are waiting for guys to make a move, that’s why you will be sending the first message. If you email a woman for the first time, you should be brief and catch her attention. Every day, women tons of e-mail from guys that are just plain boring them to tears.

If you make it personal, she will believe you actually read her profile carefully and that you didn’t just copy and paste the same thing to 100 different women. She is bored with these guys that send the exact same boring email to a hundred women, but you are not one of them (I hope).

Make it a short one but make sure you leave her wanting more. If you are emailing her for the first time, the shorter your email is, the better. It’s better write in one or two sentences. It should not be longer than this. If you ask her a question, you will increase the possibility of getting her to respond.

For example, if she is fond of Japanese food, you can ask her a short question like “Do you like natto? Because if you do, that’s a deal-breaker” to make her laugh and think you are funny. This is a sort of joke, and at the same time, it is giving her the her the opportunity to write back and keep the conversation going.

It is not that difficult, but many guys do not think this way. The tips above are really helpful for men who want real results from online dating sites.

How To Approach Girls Even If The Thought Terrifies You

2010-06-23T12:10:00.000-07:00

Approaching girls is one of the biggest obstacles a guy faces when they see a girl they like. Approaching a girl is not an easy task. Before you approach a girl, it’s a good idea to get some confidence built up to overcome the anxiety of approaching a girl. When meeting girls, you have to know where you are going to meet them and what you’re going to say.

We can get into this problem by dissecting it one piece at a time.

How to approach girls with courage.

I can’t lie. It’s not easy for a lot of guys when it comes to talking to girls. Some guys don’t have this problem, making them very lucky. Talking with girls holds a lot of guys back from becoming successful with a woman.

Ask yourself, what is holding you back from approaching a girl. Do you think she will not find you attractive enough? Do you think she will find you boring? The problem is there, you just have to ask yourself what it is, and improve upon it.

If you feel that it’s your looks that’s holding you back, then work out more or find something better to wear. If you are not good at talking or sparking a conversation, create some small talk with strangers.

How to approach girls.

Finding girls can be rather difficult for guys. I don’t see how hard it is when talking with women, seeing that 50% of the earth is populated with them. The globe is covered with so many women. Finding them won’t be difficult, seeing as they need to buy groceries just like you, eat like you, go to work, etc.

The location plays a huge role when it comes to approaching girls. Finding that place is key. If it’s at a favorite restaurant or a book store, approaching a girl will be easier because you’ll have something in common.

If you join a group or a hobby club, it should be even easier to find a great reason to approach a girl. This will create an instant conversation.

Succeeding in approaching girls.

you feeling ready? There she is, across the room. What do you think you should do?

You need to have something to say. Find a good excuse to go up and talk to her Maybe she is wearing something that stands out, or something she is doing that catches your attention?

If you’re still drawing a blank, try thinking a little harder. If for some reason there is absolutely nothing that stands out about her, memorize some PUA openers and try them out.

If you know what to say and you’re feeling in a good mood, just go up and talk to her. Start talking to her and see if this is someone you would want to get to know better. After talking, get her number if she’s the kind of girl you’d like to get to know more.

These are my tips for approaching girls. With some practice you’ll see that approaching girls is actually pretty simple, so just go for it! It can change your life and boost your overall confidence. Meeting new people (especially attractive women) can be one of the most exciting things out there. That person you are talking to could be your next girlfriend.

How To Figure Out If A Girl Likes You

2010-06-21T14:12:00.000-07:00

When talking to a girl, have you ever thought about whether or not you are wasting your time? You don’t know if she’s into you or just being nice! Let’s try and give you some signs a girl likes you so that you never have to question whether or not she likes you.

Here they are:

1. If she plays with her hair when you are nearby. She isn’t intentionally doing this. It’s just an unconscious reaction to being around a hot guy, like you, you stud! If she is playing with her hair, this means that she wants to look her best for you.

2. If she is unable to take her gaze off of you, this is another sign that the girl might like you. Now this is different than if you just did something stupid and she’s looking at you thinking “What’s wrong with that guy?” I’m talking about when she has this lovey-dovey look in her eyes.

3. When she looks away after making eye contact, is another sure sign that she likes you. This is a submission sign from the woman, and it is totally biological. You can’t fake this stuff.

4. Another sure sign is if she’s laughing at everything you say-especially the stupid things. Test her with a horrible joke. See if she laughs anyway. (Here’s one: What did the digital watch say to his mom? "Look mom no hands.")

5. Biting or licking her lips while talking with you, is another great sign that she might like you.

6. If she gets all upset when someone mentions that the two of you are a couple or should be dating, and then this is another sign, however it is very complicated. This means that she just doesn’t want to come off as overly eager or that she’s just waiting for you make your move.

7. She might try to avoid eating whenever you are near, however strange it may seem, this is a sign that she likes you none the less. This is because most people don’t look very attractive while they’re eating (she’s trying to make sure that you don’t think she’s a slob or a pig).

8. She might be curious and ask if you are dating someone. This sign is very big and it means that she wants to be dating you (she’s seeing if there’s any competition).

9. To make sure she is making the right decision in dating you, she will bring you to meet her friends so that she can get their opinions of you. It’s a dead give-away if her friends keep giggling around you, like they know some kind of secret (like she has a crush on you).

10. If she agrees with everything you tell her, then this is a great sign for you. This is pretty much the ultimate sign. She is attempting to show you that the two of you have a lot in common.

Remember these ten signs next time you’re talking with a girl to see if she likes you. Once you get the hang of it, then it will come naturally when you’re talking to a girl and you’ll just “know” if she likes you or not. Also, keep improving your game so you can know instinctively when a girl likes you.

This isn’t an easy task, but with some practice you’ll be an expert on reading girls in no time. Good luck!

How to Take Her from Friento into Girlfriend

2010-05-03T13:57:00.000-07:00

It could happen to all of us sooner than you think. You're in love with one of your woman friends. The problem is that she only sees you as a "brother" and absolutely has zero attraction for you. What do you think you can do to make her into your lover?

The first thing to remember is that I know you can do this. This will likely be difficult but you can do it. You probably know someone who eventually ended up dating some girl they only knew as a friend for years.

Here are some suggestions that can help you:

Become a New and Better Man

Your friend might not be interested in you since your friend is used to you being a certain kind of person. If you'd like her to be your girlfriend then you need to show her a new side of you. You need to become a better man.

Start by showing her some aspect of you that she has never known before, she can start to feel attracted to you when she see a new and better you. You can begin by wearing a new outfit or act differently around her.

Meet Up with Her to a New Place

Your next thing you can do is to have a get together with her. It does not necessarily have to be a date, but your objective here is to impress her. Take her for lunch somewhere the both of you have never been with before. This could be your chance to prove to her you're a new man.

If you are the type of person that eats fast food all the time, ask her to go to a new restaurant with a nice ambiance. Avoid places like Starbucks. These places tend to be too bland and wouldn't give her the idea you wanted. The idea is to show her a place that's cool and trendy and the two of you don't normally go to.

Cut to the Chase

Casually chat with her and have fun once you meet her. But after a little while just be honest with her and tell her you think that she's hot. Tell her you've been thinking that you'd like her to be more than just a "friend." Then just asked her out on a date but don't make an issue out of it. She is more likely to say "yes" since this won't seem like a big of a commitment.

This is one way to make your girl friend into girlfriend. Be aware when using these tips that she might say "no" to you. If you asked her out and she turn you down, things can be awkward and you may lose your friendship with her. Make sure you are able to take this risk.

How to Tell if a Girl Likes You

2009-12-05T21:07:00.000-08:00

Several men have asked me wanting to know how they can tell if a woman likes them. I used to drive myself insane thinking about this, myself.

How to Know if a Woman is Interested in You:

These are some give aways signs that can tell you if she is into you. Here are some obvious give away signs she is interested in you.

Does she take the time to spend some time with you? A lot of people don't make that extra effort to hang out with other people they don't like. Yeah, so she might see you as just a pal, but maybe more...

Does the girl ever spend time flirting with you? If so, then she probably sees you as attractive on some level. Most women don't like to come off as a slut because they're conservative when it comes to starting things with men. If you are also attracted to her, flirt back. It can be surprising how hitting on her can lead to something more.

Does she ask you any questions that sound similar something you would ask on a first date? For example, "who is your biggest role model?" Be flattered that she likes you enough to memorize some corny first date questions. This is a big clue whether or not she likes you.

Notice her body language. If she likes you, she most likely will stand closer to you than a normal person and find reason to touch you. Follow the same advice that I gave you in the second point above about flirting.

Do her female friends ask you several questions about her? Most times a girl will tell her friends how she feels about men she is interested in. Women will tell their friends how they feel about you. Notice if her friends ask you a bunch of pointless questions.

Avoid spending too much time worrying about any of this. Assume that the woman likes you . Just think of all the mental energy and time you can save if you don't waste time worrying about this.

I mean, why wouldn't she want to be with you? You're a guy any woman would be lucky to have.

If you don't think you're a catch, you need a boost of confidence and self esteem. Once you get more confidence, women will see that and be instantly attracted to you.

Just assume she is interested in you and follow my advice. Girls love to follow the lead of a confident guy anyway, and if you start to become that man, things may start to go your way.

If you enjoyed this article, also check out How to Know if a Girl Likes You, Does She Love Me?, and Double Your Dating Review.

How to Pickup Women

2009-12-05T21:06:00.000-08:00

You shouldn't be shocked to find that the most effective way to learn more about a girl is to ask her questions. Yes, there are lists of idiotic "date questions" out there like, "If you were trapped on a deserted island, what three movies would want to watch for the rest of your life?" Don't use these. They come off desperate and awkward. Plus, they just kill all attraction between you and the woman.

You shouldn't devote your efforts to these stupid questions. What you want to do is just talk to the woman naturally. Men often memorize stupid questions as a crutch to deal with feelings of nervousness or anxiety that they get. Using a bunch of canned questions will only hinder any real connection between you and the girl.Stop thinking so much and just be aware of what is going on in the moment with you and her. When you start to take a real interest in her experience in the present moment, you will never be left guessing what to talk about again.

Too many men also just ask questions that can be answered with a "yes" or a "no". Stop doing this, if you find that you do it. This will make you seem weird like you're a journalist interviewing her.

Are you from around here? - Yep.

Do you work in the city? - Yes.

Do you have a dog? - No.

Do all these dumb questions bother you? - Yes.

Try using open-ended questions instead that will make her contribute something to the conversation.

What's your favorite area of town? - I like the XYZ District. In fact I live there.

Really? What do you like so much about it? - I like all the history and character there. yadda ...yadda... yadda.

This isn't anything tough.

Ask the girl things about her life. Get to know her better and wrap your mind around how she sees the world. Start to drill down deeper into her emotions by asking the woman questions like "What did that make you feel?" and "What was it like when XXX happened?" Watch how she acts when she describe things and drill down on those too. Ask her things like "You seemed a little worried when you told me about your job.Tell me more about that." This often opens things that the woman didn't even know about herself.

Once you do this a few times, you will start to feel a very extremely strong connection that will make it seem like the two of you are in a bubble, alone from the rest of the world. You can be in the loudest club out there, but it will seem like you have her all to yourself.

Doesn't that sound so much better than "If you were a song, what kind would you be?"

So, just ditch the lame date questions and just have a real legitimate conversation. Just bring yourself completely to the interaction and allow whatever happens to happen. Ask questions to the woman and start to really get an understanding about her life. So feel free to ask anything that you want, so long as you are truthfully interested in the answer.

If you liked this article, please also check out how to pickup women, ask questions to a girl, and how to talk to girls.

Where to Meet Girls

2009-12-05T21:05:00.001-08:00

Where are all the women? Single men want to know. Sure, you can probably meet a few girls if you go out to bars or clubs. But the music is often so loud that you can barely have a conversation with anyone. That is why I like to meet girls elsewhere.

Here are a few places I like to meet women that aren't bars or clubs.

First, you need to spend more time out in public. You probably won't find any girls to date inside your house. Girls are out in the real world, eager to meet you.

You can find them all over. They need to do the same daily chores that you and I do. They go grocery shopping. They need to fill up their cars with fuel. They catch up with friends at the cafe down the street. They hit the gym. They stop by the deli near work for lunch. They grab the new bestseller at the bookstore.

The best way to meet girls is to simply get out of the house and go to places where you can run into a lot of people. Begin with something easy like taking your laptop to the coffee shop next time you have a project that you need to do. Or go out and get lunch once or twice a week at work instead of bringing your own. Go to a few festivals and events that are held in your area. Go on a little walk through your neighborhood.

Begin looking for excuses to leave your house and do things around your community.

Consider joining some clubs. Sure, there are singles organizations out there, but you can sign up with other clubs too. Try to find a few clubs for interests you a passionate about. Enroll in a painting class if you are interested in art. If you like the idea of living on your own in the wild, take some classes on wilderness survival. If you like writing, you might want to join a writers circle. Don't just join with groups to meet women, do it because you are authentically interested with the subject. The women and friends you meet should just be an extra incentive.

You already have a great conversation topic if you meet a woman at one of these meetings. Just start with "Hey, I'm new at this group. How to you like things here?".

You can also expand your social circle and make new platonic friends too. These new friends will likely know a few girls that you can meet through them too. What you are doing here is adding to your circle of friends. When you have tons of friends, getting a date will be easy. You will always know someone who knows a single woman that you can hook up with.

If you enjoyed this article you might also be interested in Where to Meet Girls, Internet Dating Guide, and Meet Girls on the Internet

First Date Tips

2009-12-05T21:04:00.001-08:00

What? She said yes when you asked her out? Awesome! Now, let's talk about some advice for first dates.

First dates are important because they give the two of you the opportunity to learn more about each other. I do not advise distracting dates like music shows or the theater. These make it challenging to really have a discussion with the girl. I like boring dates. Coffee dates are the best because they are inexpensive and don't seem very serious. If you take the girl out for coffee and the woman just acts incredibly rudely or whatever, it is not a big deal to just get up and leave.

Your goal for the first date is only to get to know her. If you pay attention to nothing else I say, listen to this. I know you like her, but you really don't know very much about the woman yet. Just have fun and learn who she is for now. Find out what her personality is like. Don't try to commit to memory a lot of corny "date questions" to throw at the woman. They will seem rehearsed and only make you look desperate. Just ask the woman things about her life. Keep in mind that your goal is not to entertain the woman, it is to get to know her, so only ask her questions if you really care about her response.

I still feel pretty excited and eager before I go out on a first date. Learning about a new person and discovering what she is like is about as exciting as opening a present on Christmas morning for me. You shouldn't be too worried since first dates tend to be pretty easy.

Here is another thing to remember for first dates. Don't get your hopes up too high. Your only aim is to find out if this girl is worth spending more time with. Keep your expectations down to earth. She is likely not going to go home with you that night. Most girls decide ahead of time that they will only go so far on a first date. So only go in with the goal of discovering more about her.

At the end of the date hug her and give her a kiss on her cheek. This is one of my favorite ways of ending dates. This will make you look pretty smooth and charming. Plus it will telegraph a powerful message that you are a top-notch guy. A gentleman that is looking for a quality relationship.

Most importantly, don't forget to enjoy yourself. Get her to laugh. She is likely anxious about the date as well. A good laugh will put you both at ease. Make up nonsensical stories about yourself. This will show her that you are both confident and that you don't take life too seriously at the same time. Just say something so off the wall that she knows you're just playing around like "My mom drove me here. She is waiting for me to finish up here in the drug store parking lot across the street. I can't leave her waiting all day, so I really need to be going."

So keep these things in mind on your next date. Remember that first dates are only to see if the girl is worth taking out on more serious dates. So don't get too stressed out.

If you enjoyed this article, also check out Tips for a First Date, What to Talk About on a Date, and Stop Being Shy.

How to Become an Alpha Male

2009-12-05T21:02:00.000-08:00

Most men that write to me want to learn how to become an alpha male. You know what I'm saying here. The guy that commands respect everywhere he goes. The guy that is always the focus of the whole room. The one that catches the eye of every woman he runs across.

Some guys just act like jerks to other people to show that they have "social proof." They always brag about every little achievment that they experience, and take every chance to show off.

These men are being dumb and you don't want to copy them.

These guys are not alpha males. They show this by how much effort the put into showing how cool they are|.

The real alpha men are rock-solid and have nothing to prove. They do not waste time on how others see them because they know what they stand for. They live life by their own standars and definitely don't care if everyone thinks of them as "alpha. "

To become an alpha male, stop trying to impress other people and just follow your own path. Quit doing all that petty stuff to try and prove yourself to others. Real alpha men do not need to show off because they already know inside that they are cool guys .

Okay, now the stuff you can use.

Start taking initiative in your daily life. Instead of waiting for other people to decide things, try being the first to make a decision for them. It is not even important if you care that much about the outcome. Just choose something. Most pople cannot stand making decisions and are eager to let someone else do it. Additionally, you wil never have to endure a "I can't decide. What would you like to do?" discussions again. Taking command of a situation is easy, and most people will just simply fall in line behind you.

You should additionally start planning the broad vision of your life. Ask yourself what you're doing with your life and where you're headed. Cultivate some serious values. Stand up for your values is somebody tries to put you down them. But do not be overly willing to come to blows or start arguing with others. Assume that you can solve things through a civilized conversation, but don't be afriad to defend yourself if someone tries to take it there. After getting this, you will natrually take up alpha male behaviors. Once you know what your life is about there is no longer any reason to be uptight and tense.

Stop pouring so much effort into becoming an "alpha male. Simply cultivate your inner values and you'll automatically become less nurotic and more calm. The True alpha guys do not care about how everyone else sees them, so neither should you.

If you liked this article, please check out How to Become an Alpha Man, How to Impress Girls, and What Women Think Is Attractive.

What to Say to a Girl

2009-12-05T21:00:00.000-08:00

After approaching a woman, what you say can help ensure that things keep going well.

Try this advice to make your conversations with girls more enjoyable. Note: Before trying any of this take a second to remember that you are actually talking to a human being.

Don't make things too easy for her. Be a little mysterious. Make her put a bit of effort in. Sometimes you'll be tested by girls. When she does then, throw her a curve ball and test her. When women test men, most guys will either try to act macho or become a doormat scared of offending her. Both of these are a turn off. You are just ruining your chances with the girl.

In these situations, you can do two things. When she asks you how many women you've been with or what kind of car you own, you can either:

One, you can ask her "What makes you want to know?" Don't say this like an arrogant jerk or you'll just inspire her to throw her drink at you. This is a chance for you to get to the bottom of the real question.

In case you missed that, you answer questions with questions. Don't over do it though or you may come off as shifty.

Second, you can just tell her something funny that she will know is just for laughs. Try to make it something as pathetic as possible. The lamer it is, the better. It will show that you are confident enough in yourself that you can laugh at yourself. Very few guys are bold enough to even joke about something like their dating lives. When you pull this off and it's clear that you are merely kidding around with her, she will start to think of you you as confident and smooth. If you are ever wondering what to say to a woman, try something funny.

Make sure you also hit on the woman too. If you don't let her know that you're in to her, then she might start to think of you as a friend. I take it you don't want this. It is actually pretty easy to let a girl know you like her. Don't attempt to think up some choreographed lecture about why the two of you are meant for each other. That will not win the woman over. Just continue your conversation until she mentions something that authentically impreeses you. Then comment with something like "That's really sexy how you read a new book each week," or "I think it's really sexy how you want to help animals. "

Don't even worry about sounding crazy. It can be a little out there. In fact it's more often than not better if it is original.

So, I hope you got a few good tips on what to say to a girl. This isn't all that complex. Don't take it too seriously.

If you liked this article, please also take a look at What to Say to Girls, How to Start Conversations with Women, and Getting Women's Phone Numbers

How to Kiss a Girl

2009-12-05T20:59:00.000-08:00

Have you ever been out on a date and felt that strange feeling when you knew you had to take things to the next level, but you didn't know how to kiss her in the right way or were nervous of blowing it?

It is something that a lot of guys will deal with at some point. Actually, I used to suffer from the same problem. I would be able to get girls to go out with me, but I could never step up to the plate when it came time to take things physical.

Firstly, if you can get a girl to go out with you and you have an inkling that she might even be attracted to you, then you are faring a lot better than most guys out there. You just need to know how to kiss a woman.

The real problem is in your mind. Your mind is most likely racing "What if she just wants to be friends? How would I deal with that?".

All of this is simply a waste of your energy.

There are no fool-proof ways to know if a girl likes you or not.

What you should do instead is find out quickly if she is deserving of your time or not.

You have to just kiss her when the timing is right like when you two are alone. With a bit of practice, you can just feel when it is time to kiss her. The situation will become thick and you will intuitively know it is time to kiss.

When you kiss her, she will will give you one of two reactions.

First, the two of you will make out and have all sorts of exciting fun.

Or second, she turns you down. If this happens, be glad! You learned quickly that she isn't worth your time and you can now turn your attention to other women.

Just say something calm like, "Well, you can't blame me for giving it a try. " or "Just take it as a compliment." Then finish up the date fast. Treat her like she is just a friend and don't let the situation become weird.

Then your relationship is left to her. If she decides that she made the wrong choice, then leave it to her to call you. But leave the decision to her. You, on the other hand, will be out spending time with other women that are attracted to you.

Here is a story from my life that shows you how to kiss a girl.

Last year, I met up with a girl that I was really eager to go out with. Occasionally, you meet a woman that just pushes all your buttons in just the right ways. She was one of those girls.

We got lunch at one of my favorite spots in town. After driving her home, she invited me up to show me her artwork. We had a conversation and lounged on her sofa.

Then everything became quiet.

The moment was just right to make my move. I didn't know what would happen, but I took a leap of faith anyway. I let it to get a little awkward for dramatic effect, then I said, "I just really want to kiss you now. " Then I just kissed her.

She seemed uncertain for a second but then she relaxed into the mood. Don't shy away if you get some intial resistance. If she doesn't feel like making out, she'll make it clear. But don't be surprised if you encounter a little "turbulance".

Also be a man and stay in control of the make out session. Most women will try to kiss in their own way at first. Be firm and direct with your kissing and she will relax and let you set the tone.

Afterward I leaned back and said "I've wanted to do that for a really long time. " That made her smile and we went on to have a lot of fun.

So that is how to kiss a woman. Yes, it can be hard to put it all on the line and risk rejection, but that's part of the game.

If you liked this article, please also check out How to Kiss a Woman, Flirting with Girls, and Turning On Women

Tips on How to Get a Girlfriend

2009-12-05T20:56:00.000-08:00

A good deal of men are looking to learn a couple of tricks for getting a girlfriend. You don't have to push yourself all that hard to have some degree of success with women. Yeah, you'll have to learn how to meet girls and how to get a date with a woman, after you get a handle on the essentials of dating, settling into a relationship is going to be more work.

First, don't just settle for a woman because you want a girlfriend and she happened to be there. You don't want to make a woman your girlfriend for this reason. It's not good for you and it isn't good for her either. You need to live by your convictions if you want to be the kind of guy that has a fulfilling long-term relationship, and really enjoys the company of the girl he is with.

It may require some devoted self-improvement to become the kind of man that is attractive to the girl that you truly desire. The supermodels might not exactly be rushing to bash down your door if you're the kind of man that just plays World of Warcraft in his parents' basement all day.

These two things could help you. First, I want you to make a list of the top five things that you most want in a girlfriend. These can be whatever you want. A few examples could be "emotional openness," "artistic," "a sense of adventure," or even something as simple as "a hot body." Above all else, make sure that you're not listing certain things that you "should" want in a girl. Then, jot down a list of five things that you will not tolerate from a girl no matter what. These might be qualities like "too needy," "cheating," "militant feminists," or "too demanding." These two lists can be a compass that can guide you to your ideal girl and ensure that you don't end up stuck with someone who will make you miserable. Spend more time with women that show the qualities that you want in a girl. You never know, she could be the love of your life. On the same note, quit dating women that show the qualities that you don't want to have in a girlfriend. This alone is one of the best dating tips I can offer. It will save you so much time and drama.

Second, you likely have a inkling about what your dream woman is like. This may seem odd, but try to envision what it's like to be her. What kind of man would she be attracted to? What sorts of traits does he have? Do you measure up to this? Although, you shouldn't pretend to be someone you're not you might have some work cut out for you if there is a disconnect. In order to attract the kind of woman that you want, you might need to move past some personal limits and overcome some challenges that have held you back in your life.

When you find a girl that is deserving of you, take things to the next level. Getting a girlfriend isn't really all that great of an achievement. You want to find and keep a girlfriend that you can really enjoy and be happy with.