Saturday, July 3, 2010

Beautiful Women - Where To Meet Them And How To Attract Them

It's almost universal - guys want to know how to meet beautiful women. I've learned a lot about beautiful women, and I'll share with you my knowledge of where you can go to meet them, and how to treat them after that.

You Can Meet Beautiful Women Here . . .

It's no secret - wherever you look, there are beautiful women. Here's one of those little-known facts - these stunning creatures aren't any different, really, from you or me. They must eat, sleep and go to work. They usually like to spend their time having fun from time to time, and they've got lives to lead that require the same things from that as are required of the rest of us.

Now, it is a fact that extremely beautiful women tend to gravitate to big cities. The reason is simple - opportunities abound in big cities. For instance, modeling and acting careers are easier to pursue in big cities. Likewise, since also attract the wealthy and successful, there's more opportunity to meet such men in big cities. Finally, cities are more active and exciting than most rural areas.

You're truly hunting beautiful women now - where can you find them? How about the places they might go to enhance and show off their beauty, or the places they might go to maintain their beauty and physical tone? To maintain their beauty, women go to the gym. To enhance their beauty, they buy fashionable clothing and accessories in trendy stores. Go to those places if you want to find beautiful women.

Pretty girls are easy to meet at a gym. Be ready to work out, and then go position yourself by one of the bench press machines. As soon as a girl comes by, tell her your workout buddy couldn't make it, and ask if she'll spot you while you do a few reps. She's doing you a big favor, so be certain to thank her when you're done, and of course introduce yourself. It's even okay to get her phone nubmer, but only if it feels right.

You can meet a beautiful woman in a department store as well - just look around and when you see one you'd love to meet, tell her you're looking for a birthday gift for your sister or cousin. She'll probably respond positively if you tell her she seems to have the same sense of understated elegance as your sister, and ask her to give you ideas about a gift like a sweater or similar item. During the time you're shopping together, you can carry on a nice conversation with her, small talk that will help you to get to know her better.

What's the Best Way to Behave When Meeting Beautiful Women?

Most men, when they're around beautiful women, get tongue-tied and act confused. They start acting macho, stupid. It's called "beauty vision." Remember - this is what most other guys out there do, so it's imperative that you stand out by being different!

Most importantly, you must be oblivious to the fact that she's gorgeous.

She knows she's beautiful and has known it for quite a while now. When you focus on something other than her looks, you send the signal that you're not so easily conquered. She may appreciate that you're clearly not just interested in her because of her looks, even if she feels a little uncomfortable with the idea that you're not so easily won over.

All you need to do is treat her like any other person you might run into during the course of the day. Realistically speaking, she probably doesn't often encounter men who don't fall all over themselves when they encounter her, and so the time your spend together will be somewhat of a rarity to her. At the same time, your immunity - your apparent immunity - to her beauty will set you apart from most other men, and she'll consider you something of a mystery. She'll be off-balance, because she'll appreciate being treated like a grownup women, but she'll also be wondering whether or not you even find her attractive at all! Even though she likes and appreciates the way you treat her, she'll feel the need to make certain she still has her power over men, and so she'll feel challenged by you.

Now you have a couple more ideas about where to meet beautiful women and, probably more importantly, how to act around them. This, though, must be remembered: she's so used to men acting stupidly around her that if you act like that, she's not going to take you seriously and you'll never have a chance to show her what a great guy you really are!

How To Build Strong Connections With Women - PUA Routines For Success

Let's get down to brass tacks and look at a few of the specific techniques used by pick up artists to achieve dating success. There's nothing supernatural or magical about these routines - they're basically just stories that build you up into someone a woman wants to get to know better.

Don't worry - I'm not going to waste time rehashing some old, tired routines like "the cube" and "the jealous girlfriend." I'm going to go over a few of the newer routines here.

The Present Routine - This is a very creative routine that will help you to learn a great deal more about your "chosen" target.

It couldn't be easier - just go up to a group of girls and let them know that a business crisis called your buddy out of town unexpectedly. Tell them he called you when he landed and asked you to get his girlfriend a birthday gift for him - he asked you to spend up to $200 and he'll pay you back when he gets back. The thing is, you don't know what to get her, and so you're hoping they'll help out.

What's beautiful about this strategy is that the girls, whatever they suggest, will be revealing information about themselves. The girl who suggests a day at a spa is a girl who herself loves to be pampered, for instance. The girl who tells you to buy expensive perfumes and accessories, designer name things like Prada and Guess, is a girl who herself also likes those designer-name things. Especially if you're persistent and patient, and get the girls to think about their suggestions, this will give you incredibly valuable information. Imagine if one of the girls first tells you to buy a designer handbag, but her second suggestion is a book of poetry by a particular author.

Dating for Dummies - I've encountered a lot of different routines, and this is one of the funniest I've heard of. It's a great icebreaker and it helps women to feel really relaxed around you.

Can you find a book on dating called "Dating for Dummies" or something similarly stupid? Find it and buy it.

Carry it with you into places you'd expect to meet women, like clubs, taverns, or whatever. Open it up to the chapter about pickup lines you should never use.

Now you can have fun - go up to a woman you'd really like to meet, hold the book open in front of you, and start reading the bad pickup lines out loud. Don't be bashful, go for the gusto! The worse the line, the better it is for your purpose - look for "Do you come here often?" and "Hey there, baby, what's your sign?"

This ought to get you a few laughs - assuming she's got any sense of humor at all - and she'll let down her guard. You can even put on an innocent air and ask her if it "worked."

Okay, so these are just a couple of tried-and-true PUA routines that ought to help you get your foot in the door. Once you've got a conversation going, though, you can't let it stay at the question and answer level. You've got to make a connection. To establish rapport, you have to open up wo her, share something personal about yourself. Try a meaningful story about an incident at work, or maybe something that happened at school. You'll find that when you open up to women personally, they'll likewise open up to you, and you'll actually feel the connection building.

There are some PUA routines that basically involve lying about who you are. That's not my style, and I hope it's not yours, and so those routines aren't included here. I'm sure you've got friends who are constantly telling stories about things they've done, places they've been, and the like. You've probably done many of the same things and been to loads of different places yourself - so think of incidents in your life and travels that illustrate the sort of great guy you are and take the time to make good stories of them!

Your own life and experiences are always the very best foundation on which to build your own PUA routines. Sometimes, a little help is called for. Put the routines here to work - try them out yourself a few times and get a feel for them and for approaching women. Working with these PUA routines will give you a better insight into making your own routines from your own life experiences.

Friday, July 2, 2010

How The Gurus Pick Up Women All The Time!

In his book The Game, Neil Strauss popularizes the Pick Up Artist (PUA). Many men worldwide have had their eyes opened by this impressive book and revitalized their dating lives. Whether you're new to dating, or feel you're pretty experienced, the tips laid out here should help you in your dating life.

Before looking at techniques, let me point out that there are really two different types of pick up artists. The first kind of PUA works hard at it, memorizing specific scenarios or tales to tell their prospective companions. These stories and routines are each intended to impress women and attract them to the PUA, and to ensure his success, he carefully crafts and polishes them. Mystery is the prime example of this kind of pick up artist.

The "natural game" is how Strauss characterizes the approach used by the second type of PUA. Success with women is achieved by putting his own natural charisma and personality into play. This fellow will approach women confidently, and his conversation will be spontaneous, natural, hence the label. A good example from The Game would be the PUA called “Juggler.”

There are advantages and disadvantages to each approach. My preferred approach is "natural game," but I've seen success achieved with both techniques. There's a lot of work involved in memorizing all that material. I find it far preferable to have a woman attracted to me because of my own wit and personality - who I really am - than to know she's attracted to me because of some tale I spun for her.

Regardless of the strategy you employ, though, remember this: concentrate on your inner game, the real you. The term "inner game" is how we label your core beliefs and especially your level of self-confidence. You see, it doesn't matter how many tips and routines you've memorized, or how many stories you've fabricated - if you feel shy and unattractive, you're really not very likely to approach a woman you find attractive. Conversely, if you have a high degree of self-confidence, you'll be able to approach pretty much any woman without fear of rejection.

Another pick up artist tip: take it easy. These things take time. Concentrate on the basics - your self-confidence, your inner game - and as these things improve, you'll find yourself with more women than you ever dreamed would be possible in your life! When you find something in your path - an obstacle that keeps you from being successful - you must concentrate specifically on overcoming that obstacle. Shyness was my obstacle. To overcome my shyness, I devised a special challenge for myself. I had to talk with 100 strangers every week. Overcoming the obstacles you encounter is a job only you can do - nobody's going to do it for you.

Of all the possible pick up artist tips I could offer, though, one of the best is simple: consistency. Once you've found a technique you're comfortable with, don't change. You might be familiar with the type - the fellow who buys a book, skims it, and then tries one or two pieces of advice, before giving up and turning to another book. After trying many approaches briefly, they'll denounce them all as ineffective. The fact is, though, that dating success was available to these guys if they'd simply stuck with a single approach and gave it an honest trial.

Thus, if you really want to achieve dating success, my final pick up artist tip is to find one technique that you're comfortable with, learn it thoroughly, and stick to it!